Today I've got a devotion running on Proverbs 31 and Crosswalk on Controlling a Complaining Spirit. If you have found your way to my blog from there, I'd like to welcome you to my little corner of the Internet.
Life is tough. It really is. I've met a lot people in the past two years who've got real troubles. They've lost jobs, homes, marriages or health. I know people who have lost loved ones. The list could go on.
If anyone has a right to complain, it's someone who has suffered. Right?
What if that isn't right? What if there was a way to deal with life's troubles without complaining? Have you ever met someone who had every right to complain ... but didn't.
Those people seem to have a secret. How can they deal with the pain of life and yet not complain? Even more than not complaining, they have hope. Yes they experience sadness, grief and pain. But they don't lose hope.
Year ago my pastor said something that stuck with me. He said when you have lost something, focus on what you have left. Not on what you have lost. I wonder if that's the secret some people have.
Here's what that means to me. When I lose something, especially if it was something I love, I grieve. Different losses mean different levels of grief. But grieving is healthy. Acknowledging what I've lost is healthy. Telling God how I really feel is healthy. Not faking it is healthy.
Then after a time of healthy grief, I get perspective and thank God for what I have left. It doesn't diminish what I've lost to do this. It's a way to move forward. This isn't easy, don't get me wrong. But if I make a choice to thank God for what I have just a little more today than I did yesterday, I'm making progress.
As I've read Scripture, I've discovered that God can handle my honesty. He can handle my pain. He can even handle my unhappiness with Him. But He doesn't like when I complain to others. Maybe it's because complaining doesn't move us forward. It keeps us in a place of pain.
These are just some thoughts of mine today on complaining. What are your thoughts? Let's start a conversation about how you handle complaining.
In His Love,