A friend recently asked me a very wise question. She is facing a decision about a change in employment and wanted to make sure she wasn't doing it for selfish reasons. She wanted to know how to tell if it's God's will for her.
What a good question.
Personally, I think a selfish person doesn't even worry about being selfish.
Not that I'm speaking from personal experience or anything ... but ... it's possible that I have in my past, made decisions without consulting God.
I know, you are thinking "say it isn't so!"
I'm still learning to wait on God, which is hard for a girl who loves to start things.
So I shared with my friend a list of questions that I've used to help me identify my priorities, and ultimately God's will for my life. I don't think God's will looks like a check list. I think His will for me is to be more like Jesus first and foremost and then to use my gifts and talents to serve Him. Of course there's more to it than that, but that's a general overview. There's a lot of flexibility in that plan.
So here's my list of questions for myself:
1. What can only I do? (Only I can develop my faith, take care of my health, be my husband’s wife and be my children's mother.)I also think the Bible gives us some guidelines on how to know God's will. Here's Roman 12:1-2:
2. What has God entrusted to me? (God has entrusted me with the care of a home, the care of children, my health, the management of my time and money to name a few.)
3. Am I a good steward of what I already have? (Do I manage money well? Do I care for my home? Do I love my husband and children the way I should? Do I work as effectively as I can?)
4. What passion has God put in my heart? (I have for worship, writing, and for women to draw closer to God and align their lives with His will.)
5. What has God asked you to do that you haven’t done yet? (For years I knew God was calling me to write, but I did nothing about it.)
"Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will."
Based on that scripture, if we are offering ourselves (our thoughts, finances, time, emotions) to God as a sacrifice, and guarding our minds, then we can know God's will for our lives.
So long as we are following God (with Him ahead of us) and not trying to lead (with Him behind us) we will see Him, and can know His will for our lives through prayer and humble suplication. We make it much more complicated than it needs to be.
That's a lesson I'm still trying to slow myself down to learn.
In His Love,