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Thursday, August 12, 2010

Today is my husband and my 27th wedding anniversary.   So in celebration,  I thought I would share some of the most important lessons I've learned.  Maybe these aren't the most brilliant insights in the world, but today they are what come to mind:

1)  It's better to pick up my husband's socks from in front of the TV, than nag him to do so.  (learned in year one of our marriage and still good advice)

2)  When my husband walks in the door, it's important to stop what I'm doing and hug him with both arms, provided there aren't chicken parts hanging off my fingers. 

3)  Getting presents isn't everything.   I'll take a devoted husband over a birthday gift any day.

4)  Remember that my husband's "love languages" are touch and words of affirmation.  These two needs are easy to meet, don't cost anything, and reap a huge reward for everyone in the family. 

5) As I place myself under my husband's spiritual authority, I've learned to trust that God will bring good to me when my husband makes (what I consider to be) the wrong decision.    

6)  It's okay that my husband doesn't like chick-flicks.  He can still love me and never go with me to see a movie with Jennifer Anniston or Hugh Grant.

7) There are worse things than debt, unemployment or an occasional day spent sleeping and watching TV.   I keep everything in perspective. 

8)  My husband and I share a common enemy.  My husband is not my enemy.  (Nor are our kids, though sometimes it feels like it - grin)

9) It's important to allow my husband to follow his dreams, and to support him in doing so.  Which is why you'll find me on the sidelines of marathons, triathlons, and traveling across the country to visit every National Park, National Historic Site, National Monument, etc. in America!  (We've got to fill up our National Park Passport, don't you know?)

10)  And the most important lesson I've learned in making a marriage last 27 years is never say "divorce."  Take it out of your vocabulary.  Gone.  Never to be spoken again in the context of your relationship. 

It's been an incredible 27 years, and I can't even imagine my life without Tod, my best friend.

Hope you go love on your man today. 

Happily married,



Tracy Nunes said...


My husband and I just celebrated our 25th! And, boy did my life prove what was said at She Speaks: prepare to be attacked in the area you write about. Coming home has been like hitting a hard brick wall at 90 MPH. But, I've walked with God long enough now to know that He is more than able. 27 years of marriage is a miracle this days. Congratulations!

Judi said...

Glynnis, those words ARE the most brilliant in the world! They are the glue that keeps a marriage together and I recognize where you got the recipe...from God. Thanks so much for sharing. Hope these words reach a lot of us that are in need.

Edwina said...


Congratulations on reaching such a milestone! Your list of ten is truly a list to live by!


Spring M Fricks said...

Happy Anniversary. You guys make a beautiful couple.

Rachel Olsen said...

Congrats Glynnis & Tod!

Good advice - fun post.

Thoughts for the day said...

I think when one is married a long time we tend to over look the small stuff and learn what is really important to focus on. My husband and I have been married 36 years and through it all it has been a learning process of letting go of self and allowing God to 'show' us where to 'give and take' to keep peace.
It is a journey that is well worth the effort.

KELLY W said...

That is so sweet! Congratulations! This has been a tough year for my marriae due to financial reasons, but after all the words spoken at She Speaks about loving your family, I put everything back into prespective. Last Thursday was his birthday and I wrote a blog dedicated just to how wonderful I think he is. I left it on the home computer (because I knew sometime during the day he would go in there and log on)and went to work! He was more than surprised and maybe it is my imagination, but that tension that had come between us seems to have vanished (for now anyway! Amazing what letting someone know that you appreciate them can do. Thank you Glynnis for all you do!

PrairieMom said...

I can totally agree and we have been married 24 yrs.
Thanks a million for sharing your list. It's terrific!

Praise the Lord for your 27 yrs. :)

Jenny said...

Great advice, we are closing in on 16 years and what you said rings true!

Andrea Fortenberry said...

Thanks for this great insight Glynnis. It's hard to remember those things sometimes, thank you for the reminder. Congratulations on 27 years!