tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post7930841526898702497..comments2023-08-26T09:37:19.120-07:00Comments on Glynnis Whitwer: Should you stand up to a bully?Glynnis Whitwerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06124651192354710304noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-79638838015927894822010-09-13T07:00:51.837-07:002010-09-13T07:00:51.837-07:00Thank you for sharing with us.
I am passionate ab...Thank you for sharing with us.<br /><br />I am passionate about helping children who are being bullied; to encourage them to tell a safe adult. <br /><br />I would really value help from Christians around the world, to help share this message.<br />If anyone is interested, please see my website. Thank you xAnitahttp://www.areyoubeingbullied.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-70414629177429849352010-09-13T05:13:41.681-07:002010-09-13T05:13:41.681-07:00Thank you for your wise words of wisdom, especiall...Thank you for your wise words of wisdom, especially the not to take things into your own hands part and to set healthy boundaries part. This is something I struggle with raising 4 children. Please enter me in your drawing for a copy of your book. Have a blessed day.Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11875814404925346670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-46616192555560395322010-09-12T23:58:17.811-07:002010-09-12T23:58:17.811-07:00thank you for your devotional. This is happened t...thank you for your devotional. This is happened to me in the past with family members, I had never pin pointed what was happening until tonight. I just thought I was the odd one and the one who was insecure. I have learned just to keep silent and then when I have comfronted the situations it creates such a problem that I wish I could have just kept it to my self. I then feel worse since I know that we given Satan an opportunity for taking our peace away.Then insecurity and anger arise. It is hard to not pass this on to my own kids, and I do pray that God will help me to break this cycle. I see my oldest who has an attention problem and how it is hard for her as well to feel secure in what she does and what she says. And I see how kids laugh and make faces at her, or when family just ignore her or leave her talking. I know that if I do not learn my self to confront my own emotional bullies, I will not be able to help my own kids.<br />I know that this is an answer to prayer and I do thank God for using you today! Could you please consider me for one of your books? I know it will bless my life. <br />In his service, <br /> starshipiaks@gmail.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-63777939693070702602010-09-12T20:47:14.491-07:002010-09-12T20:47:14.491-07:00This article came at just the right time. I was b...This article came at just the right time. I was bullied as a child and am now trying to help my child be strong in who she is as a child of God. The feelings from my past sometimes make it hard for me to know what the right thing is to help her. I think your book could benefit us both.<br />Blessings! LoriAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-79228361006667207902010-09-12T19:58:04.774-07:002010-09-12T19:58:04.774-07:00Thanks for writing about bullying. Our son has be...Thanks for writing about bullying. Our son has been bullied for over 4 years now, by two boys (who are cousins).<br />It would be easier if it had been at school and we could explain that they just don't love Jesus, but when it happens at church???<br /> <br />It's just so hard to know what to do. We pray that his character would grow through this, and it's so nice to see him help other kids to have a good time.<br /><br />We really need wisdom, and we've told him to stay away from those boys, but they're always hunting him down.<br /><br />Your sister in Christ,<br />dksester@frontier.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-37368751116694628022010-09-11T22:25:56.155-07:002010-09-11T22:25:56.155-07:00Hi Glynnis..... I have a two year old son who ton...Hi Glynnis..... I have a two year old son who tonight at our BBQ with friends was hit in the face by another 2 year old. My son was having difficulty sleeping tonight and after talking with him he said that he wanted to cry when he was hit. My heart is crushed! I soooo want to protect him but my husband and I need to teach and equip him how to handle these situations when they do happen. I never thought that at 2 years old my husband and I would need to address this. I'd love to hear more about what your advice is. Thanks.....<br /><br />Carolyn<br />CSnavely727@gmail.comCarolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929091623975599650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-38285017906233827762010-09-11T17:14:20.807-07:002010-09-11T17:14:20.807-07:00Thanks so much Glynnis. One thing I have to draw t...Thanks so much Glynnis. One thing I have to draw to my teen daughters attention is that sometimes, though they don't see it, they are actually the "mean girls". It can be a challenge to help them through bad treatment but also point out when they are the culprit.<br />Good info!<br />LynnLynn Cowellhttp://www.LynnCowell.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-33018202428433814142010-09-11T15:14:38.542-07:002010-09-11T15:14:38.542-07:00Thanks for the post couldn't have come at a be...Thanks for the post couldn't have come at a better time as my son just started secondary school. He has move from a very small school to a school of 1500 students. I had been praying ahead since last year for the Lord to go ahead of him. I believe what we parents need to do more is pray without ceasing take authority in the schools in the name of Jesus. Kids can feel our fears remember at the Name of Jesus every knee shall bow. Bullies shall bow in Jesus name. Thank you for word.<br /><br />Yours in Christ<br />RemiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-51939320101969359002010-09-11T12:30:01.355-07:002010-09-11T12:30:01.355-07:00Thank you for the devotion you've written. I ...Thank you for the devotion you've written. I struggled with bullies as a child (as I'm sure most everyone has) and have been trying to figure out exactly what I should be teaching my children about how to handle them. My response as a child was typically to ignore or let go the bullies' behavior - not always the most helpful. I believe the strategies in your book will be of great to help to me in my parenting. Thank you for letting God work through you!<br /><br />~Alicia Starr, Gastonia, NCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-90081522527578395592010-09-11T12:25:25.403-07:002010-09-11T12:25:25.403-07:00Thank you for this post. When your child comes ho...Thank you for this post. When your child comes home saying she was hurt instantly my mommy claws want to come out. Your book sounds great for me to read. I would love to have the arsenal needed to teach my daughters the best and most Godly way to approach someone that bullies.<br /><br />jslutes@embarqmail.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-7218415191853020292010-09-11T12:00:57.659-07:002010-09-11T12:00:57.659-07:00a valuable and sensible approach to
a hideous soci...a valuable and sensible approach to<br />a hideous societal plague. thank you.myletterstoemilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555607498974287844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-59259900985160120592010-09-11T07:39:23.038-07:002010-09-11T07:39:23.038-07:00Great post - would love to read your book. With 3 ...Great post - would love to read your book. With 3 school age children, our family has had to deal with bullies almost every year in some form or another. As a child I was also a target for bullies. Obviously I could use some instruction and pointers on how to deal with these situations, so that my children don't have to deal with it as much as I did.<br />Blessings,<br />Maureen F.<br /><br />ferguson5 @ sbcglobal . netAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-65574540542310079712010-09-10T17:02:19.115-07:002010-09-10T17:02:19.115-07:00Dear Glynnis,I have a 9 year old son,who has been ...Dear Glynnis,I have a 9 year old son,who has been trying to battle bullying in school. We went through difficult times trying to understand it all but we lift it to the Lord and trust His purposes. Now, its wait and see if this school year is going to be better, and we pray it will be. I feel this book will open our eyes to what the Lord wants us to learn. Thank you and God bless you.gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05516307095190179513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-29860106415207313412010-09-10T16:11:38.098-07:002010-09-10T16:11:38.098-07:00Thank you for giving the correct interpretation of...Thank you for giving the correct interpretation of the Scripture passage. I feel that many christians often don't bother to find the real meaning of the passage but rely on what they have been told all their lives. Also,<br />thank you for pointing out the many places and ways bullying can occur. Many Christians/churches close their eyes and ears to calls for help from those women(usually) <br />that are being abused by their husbands,either emotionally,<br />mentally and/or physically. They instead quote the passages on <br />submission. I believe in submission when the husband is <br />loving his wife as Christ loved the Church (obviously, we all fall short) but God has not condoned abuse and told us to sumbit to it.<br />I believe that there are girls that learn to "submit" even in the presence of abuse and boys that learn to be abusers in "Christian"<br />homes. How very sad. It is a sin<br />that is in private and easily covered up. Even sadder, many times when women go to their pastor/counselor they are told to just pray and hang in there. I was a pastor's wife and couldn't go to anyone. My abuse was emotional and I tolerated it for years because<br />I didn't know what to do. I thought I was protecting my children, but they knew far more than I imagined. I finally realized I must stand up to him in the right way. We divorced, but by this time much damage was already done. My self image was shattered and my children have scars they will carry all their lives. God has been merciful and both of them are doing well and have not forsaken Christianity. However I have found that in some churches divorced women aren't welcomed. We need a place where we can worship and feel safe and not shunned! I do apologize for such a long comment but I feel this is an issue that needs to be addressed in our churches. Bless you for coming at it head on and, I believe, trying to clear up a grave misunderstanding. <br /><br />God's blessingsVonniehttp://suelee53@hotmail.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-20499272839260439312010-09-10T15:49:03.759-07:002010-09-10T15:49:03.759-07:00Thanks for the tips! My 6th grader just started pu...Thanks for the tips! My 6th grader just started public school after being homeschooled until now. I have been struggling with how to help her with the "girl drama" that goes on in school. I would love to have a copy of your book!<br /><br />emilynoe@live.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-66183898748685995772010-09-10T14:40:09.161-07:002010-09-10T14:40:09.161-07:00Thank you for your comments today. I know this is...Thank you for your comments today. I know this is a difficult issue.<br /><br />I agree with the poster who said it's up to the bystanders to do something. I have told my children they will never get in trouble at home if they defend someone weak who is being bullied. The strong should absolutely protect the weak. Is there anything closer to the heart of God? <br /><br />I will be glad to write some follow up material on this topic. Thank you for asking.Glynnis Whitwerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06124651192354710304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-73148009375260981022010-09-10T14:38:58.896-07:002010-09-10T14:38:58.896-07:00Thank you for these words of advice. My son has b...Thank you for these words of advice. My son has been dealing with hurtful words at school about his weight and I have been praying for him and for the bullying to stop. I've also asked the Lord to help me handle the situation in the right way. I wished that no child had to deal with this issue.<br /><br />aroberts@lanefurniture.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-84910235179655450612010-09-10T14:22:55.011-07:002010-09-10T14:22:55.011-07:00I would love to read more about this in your book....I would love to read more about this in your book. We like Angie, who also commented, have a child on the autism spectrum of disorders, and this is something he will likely deal with most of his life. Thank you for addressing this issue today on your blog.<br /><br />Carolee<br />bolithos@sopris.netlove2bmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00558350604909983773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-36191760478424858972010-09-10T13:43:59.752-07:002010-09-10T13:43:59.752-07:00So, what does one submissive person do when bullie...So, what does one submissive person do when bullied by another Christian in the church? Hmmm, are we to be doormats and allow these "Christian Bullies" to boss everyone else around and have their way as they always do? How does one stand up to that, I want to know? Sorry, but after 10 years of this sort of treatment, I had to finally walk away from it in order to survive. My cheeks were getting awfully sore from getting beat on over the years, not to mention how downtrodden I was and living like a doormat. However, when the "doormat" spoke back and "walked" on, I was called the "Bad Person"!!! Perhaps you might address this issue in a future blog. Thank you for this post, maybe you could put a different twist on it in order to address the situation I am referring to. That would be of great help to those of us who are tired of being "stoned by other Christians" -- it is so bad for me that I do not want to attend any church at all any more! I still love the Lord and want to serve Him but I have been damaged and hurt to the core.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-44682520707318234922010-09-10T13:22:49.182-07:002010-09-10T13:22:49.182-07:00What a timely devotion for us. My 9-year-old daugh...What a timely devotion for us. My 9-year-old daughter is dealing with bullies and we are trying to teach her God's way of dealing with them. I do want to take matters in my own hands, but need to let her stand up for herself first. Thanks for your encouragement.<br />StacyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-52312094245265650732010-09-10T13:22:32.399-07:002010-09-10T13:22:32.399-07:00What a timely devotion for us. My 9-year-old daugh...What a timely devotion for us. My 9-year-old daughter is dealing with bullies and we are trying to teach her God's way of dealing with them. I do want to take matters in my own hands, but need to let her stand up for herself first. Thanks for your encouragement.<br />StacyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-30051003673234687542010-09-10T12:59:45.219-07:002010-09-10T12:59:45.219-07:00thank you for your ministry, Glynnis!
i posted on...thank you for your ministry, Glynnis!<br /><br />i posted on your request for input on "praying for our kids" a little while back & shared your summary sheet with several sisters in Christ - many are joining me in taping the list to our bathroom mirrors & 1-by-1 making our way through the list together each morning - blanketing our children in prayer together! thank you for that!<br /><br />regarding today's post... we have 4 children (2, 4, 6, 8 - yes... who do we appreciate is OFTEN heard in response! ;) our oldest has Asperger's and SPD (sensory processing disorder), and thus is at a 90%+ risk of being bullied. we have already experienced several questionable incidents on the bus, playground, etc (common bullying target times - adults can't see it all, busy transition time, etc). we are trying to empower and equip him as best we can. we attended a "Please Don't Tease" event our school district held last year - an intro on bullying - very well done - and are planning to attend the "part 2" coming up this fall. we have very open & clear discussions with our son on this topic to try to help him know exactly some concrete ideas of how to act/what to do. unfortunately, an incident at school happened last year where he (our son) did exactly what he should do (go talk to an adult), but, an adult themself didn't handle it well! talk about confusing to our son...<br /><br />we are praying that the bus will be better this year b/c the 'bully' has moved onto the next grade & thus has a different bus route. also, his younger brother is on the bus with him this year & would speak up on his brother's behalf (we believe).<br /><br />it TRULY is a huge problem for children nowadays and the more we can put the word out there that it is NOT to be tolerated by the bystander masses (this is where they have discovered the power lies therein - NOT in trying to rehabilitate the bully - as once thought, or even as much in empower the bullee - not that we shouldn't work in addition on these things, but the focus going into building a community effort that says "we don't do that here" - that others won't stand by and allow it to happen)<br /><br />there is more i could say (believe it or not!), but i mostly just want to thank you for your Christian perspective on this & helping to draw attention to a very real problem for our children today.<br /><br />God's blessings!Angienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-75177803593446209222010-09-10T12:59:41.342-07:002010-09-10T12:59:41.342-07:00thank you for your ministry, Glynnis!
i posted on...thank you for your ministry, Glynnis!<br /><br />i posted on your request for input on "praying for our kids" a little while back & shared your summary sheet with several sisters in Christ - many are joining me in taping the list to our bathroom mirrors & 1-by-1 making our way through the list together each morning - blanketing our children in prayer together! thank you for that!<br /><br />regarding today's post... we have 4 children (2, 4, 6, 8 - yes... who do we appreciate is OFTEN heard in response! ;) our oldest has Asperger's and SPD (sensory processing disorder), and thus is at a 90%+ risk of being bullied. we have already experienced several questionable incidents on the bus, playground, etc (common bullying target times - adults can't see it all, busy transition time, etc). we are trying to empower and equip him as best we can. we attended a "Please Don't Tease" event our school district held last year - an intro on bullying - very well done - and are planning to attend the "part 2" coming up this fall. we have very open & clear discussions with our son on this topic to try to help him know exactly some concrete ideas of how to act/what to do. unfortunately, an incident at school happened last year where he (our son) did exactly what he should do (go talk to an adult), but, an adult themself didn't handle it well! talk about confusing to our son...<br /><br />we are praying that the bus will be better this year b/c the 'bully' has moved onto the next grade & thus has a different bus route. also, his younger brother is on the bus with him this year & would speak up on his brother's behalf (we believe).<br /><br />it TRULY is a huge problem for children nowadays and the more we can put the word out there that it is NOT to be tolerated by the bystander masses (this is where they have discovered the power lies therein - NOT in trying to rehabilitate the bully - as once thought, or even as much in empower the bullee - not that we shouldn't work in addition on these things, but the focus going into building a community effort that says "we don't do that here" - that others won't stand by and allow it to happen)<br /><br />there is more i could say (believe it or not!), but i mostly just want to thank you for your Christian perspective on this & helping to draw attention to a very real problem for our children today.<br /><br />God's blessings!Angienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-24923290334213565492010-09-10T12:41:00.404-07:002010-09-10T12:41:00.404-07:00One of my biggest fears for my oldest is that he w...One of my biggest fears for my oldest is that he will be bullied. He has sensory processing disorder and responds very emotionally. He just started kindergarten this year, and would love any extra resources I can get. My email is:<br />h(dot)j(dot)finn78(at)comcast(dot)net<br /><br /><br />HeatherHeather Finnegannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4378121614850709360.post-52462139711546071422010-09-10T11:54:48.208-07:002010-09-10T11:54:48.208-07:00Thank you for your thoughful words. This info will...Thank you for your thoughful words. This info will help me react more apprpriately to what my kids share with me. I don't recall being bullied so it's been hard to relate to my kids' experiences. I've always taken things in to my own hands due to injustice but I knew there must be another way. I hope to empower my kids to stand up for themselves in a more effective way. I know this book would be a great blessing to all of us and I promise to share the wisdom here with other parents. Tank you again and God bless you.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03274061103530673406noreply@blogger.com